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According to My Religion, there is but one sin that trumps all others; the 8^th deadly sin.

 

It reads as such:

 

To raise your child(ren) with the fallacy of limitation, and to systematically diminish or destroy their creative tendencies or urges, either consciously or unconsciously, for the illusion of safety and security.

 

In other words to plant in them the fear of lack or not having. In Western countries, this seems like a mute point as many children seem to have an overabundance of toys and gadgets at their disposal, no matter the economic status. However, what I am referring to is not the material sense of the term “lack”. I am defining lack more as the limitation that you cannot achieve whatever you dream. Dreams matter, especially to kids. To them all things are possible, unless we kill those dreams early in their tender lives, with our language, our actions or our example. I have an aunt that used to tell her children to not dream too big or you will wind up disappointed. Guess what happened to my dear cousin’s dreams?

 

We are born to create and be creative. To diminish that is to diminish our true purpose in this mortal existence.

 

My opinions are pretty strong on this, but I would like to share some examples of what I consider to be abuses to a child’s creativity. Your opinions may vary, and you may strongly disagree with me, but I encourage debate or comments on this subject.

 

1. You let your child indiscriminately watch TV, or play video games. Reduce access to these activities for the greater good. Have them make their own games and create their own movies and TV shows.
2. You do not have a creative life of your own, so you do not try to understand or know how to support their dreams. Enroll them in a music class, or other creative activity, but also enroll yourself.
3. You allow kids to eat only what they want, and not facilitate healthy lifestyle.Creativity needs fuel. Can a dancer or athlete perform at peak eating only fats, carbs and sugars? This is tough, but please make the effort. You will notice a dramatic change in behavior and energy levels.
4. You criticize your child for their unrealistic or crazy ideas. You really need to encourage their weird ideas, no matter how strange they are to you. Listen to their fantastic stories and admire their artistic creations. They may save the world some day!
5. You habitually avoid communication with your child because you are tired at the end of your day and want time to yourself. We all need personal space to stay sane, but there is no excuse great enough to make you avoid your children. At least make a miniscule effort at first to connect. They have a lot to say and want you to acknowledge them.
6. You medicate your children because they do not behave like a “normal” child. When “meds” are indiscriminately administered, I consider this a crime against humanity and in some cases ignorant child abuse, even if acceptable to society. If you trust only “authorities” to give you the answers for everything, then you are not in control of your own mind. How can you be a proper authority for your children when you accept solutions without question, and without researching alternative options? You absolutely owe it to your child, his/her spirit and overall happiness to exhaust all options, no matter how crazy some may sound. Start with changing their diet.
7. Lastly, you are killing your kid’s spirit when you overcommit them to activities that they may have not chosen for themselves. It has been my experience that a child has strong urges to take on a certain activity becasue of a genuine desire, or in some case a life calling that manifests early in life. This is your opportunity to let your child tell you what they want, and it is up to you to facilitate this as much as possible. For you to make the decision as to what actvities your child should participate in is making them live YOUR life dreams for them and not their own. They will go along with it for awhile because they love and worship you, but eventually they will rebel, and I mean rebel hard, and you will be rendered powerless in their minds.

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